The Human Race

“Look at us. Running around, always rushed, always late. I guess that’s why they call it the human race. What we crave most in this world is connection. For some people it happens at first site. It’s when you know, you know. It’s fate working its magic. And that’s great for them. They get to live in a pop song; ride the express train. But that’s not the way it really works. For the rest of us it’s a bit less romantic. It’s complicated and it’s messy. It’s about horrible timing and fumbled opportunities. And not being able to say what you need to say when you need to say it. At least, that’s the way it was for me.”- The Switch (2010)

 

This quote is from the movie The Switch (2010). “Love at first site” is bullshit! If that were the case I’d be in love with thousands of people around the world. The “L” word is thrown around carelessly. Children/teens are walking around saying they love each other. Why isn’t this word sacred. I hear stories about couples that have been in LOVE and are still in LOVE ’til this day. What happened? Where did we as a people go wrong?

 

I often find myself being hung up on the littlest things. When I’m standing in line and a nice handsome man lets me in front of him. I hear wedding bells. But to him, he was just being nice or waiting on his significant other to come in line so he can check out with her. When I’m in a restaurant and a guy waves or winks at me, I instantly pick out baby names. When he waving or winking at the person behind me. Yep, I’m that girl. I think too much into things. I stress over the little things. That’s me. I never give up on love no matter how much I get hurt, at least I don’t stop trying.

Just yesterday I was on Facebook commenting on a status and some person liked my comment. I went to see who it was and I saw that it was someone I went to high school with. I then began to go into “teenage girl” mode and search him. I went to his profile and clicked on his pictures, his posts, his friends, family members. I even googled him. I found his twitter, his Instagram, and I found his Myspace. I mean I seriously stalked him all from a “like” on my comment.

What has happened to me? Am I the only one that does this? I can even remember breaking up with one of my ex’s and stalking him on every social media to-date! I’m not sure why I do this. It has to be something in my brain that makes me stalk. I’m not ashamed nor proud of my abilities. I consider myself a P.I Investigator. I’ve Google(d)/Bing(ed) many people. Is it so wrong to actually look up and search people? Why would it be wrong? Do you search others?

Just like the quote says, we as humans crave connection. We crave affection, attention, and love. There has got to be something within each and everyone of us that triggers our need for companionship. No matter how you find your partner, whether it be through social media, dating networking sites, etc., we want that word… That L word. LOVE. You can deny it all you want. There are the people who claim the “single life” is best life and that they’re perfectly fine with being alone. We all know someone like this. It could even be you. But deep down inside you want to be wanted, you need to be needed.

 

I’m going to wrap this up! Love is a very special thing. It’s what keeps us going. What motivates us. It’s what makes us… Well. US! You can be the most cynical person on earth, me and you both know, there’s an optimistic person out there for you. It’s only a matter of time.

 

 

 

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Real Housewives of Atlanta

If you haven’t seen the Porsha Stewart and Kenya Moore fight on the first installment of the Housewives of Atlanta Reunion, you need to get with the times! Now, I am not one for violence but this fight had me on the edge of my seat. The clip of the fight can be found on YouTube and various other websites. So let’s get down to business. Kenya Moore is known from her previous reunion to bring props and get under your skin. This year she decided to bring a “Queens scepter” and bullhorn. Throughout the reunion she is seen pointing the scepter in Porsha’s face and invading not only Porsha’s space but Cynthia’s personal space. Kenya also decides to over talk Porsha with a bullhorn and not only is she screaming in Porsha’s ear, she is screaming in Cynthia’s ear. We all know what happens next. Porsha snatches the scepter from Kenya then throws it to the ground. A few moments later Porsha is seen standing face to face with Kenya and they are hair pulling! Excuse me, “fighting”!! Haha Of course Kenya being who she is decides to call the cops and report the incident and Porsha is last seen lying on the floor with her fellow cast mates surrounding her; except for Cynthia, she is checking on Kenya. Porsha is soon asked to leave the venue and return at a later date. Many questions and debates arose. #TeamPorsha and #TeamKenya have been trending on Twitter and various other social networks. I personally am on no ones side. I do feel bad for Porsha. Kenya has provoked her throughout the season and now the reunion. Porsha has recently been divorced and just finished a stage play. She is trying to get her business off the ground and the emotional toll that followed her to the reunion spelled disaster. I blame the producers and Andy Cohen. Andy is very familiar with all of the ladies. He even hosts a Watch What Happens Live 30min segment after the show is aired with one of the housewives. So if he knows what provokes them and what makes them tick, why ask them certain questions? Why didn’t he stop the fight when it escalated? What were the producers doing? My guess is they are sitting on the sidelines thinking to themselves RATINGS!!! It is sad that a show meant to uplift and inspire the African American (female) community is now being appraised because of fights and arguments. Now don’t get me wrong I love a good argument here and there. BUT THIS IS TO FAR! I think Porsha should get to keep her job and Kenya needs to tone it all the way down. The producers need to do a much better job.

 

 

Now my question to you is, what do you think?

 

Are you #TeamPorsha or #TeamKenya

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